If you are asking yourself What Now, He dumped me; how will I ever survive? It may help to know that while you’ve a broken heart, you are not broken. Life isn’t over
At this moment you are experiencing two fears and those are:
1) Will I ever recover from the break up
2) Will anyone ever truly love me.
Take heart my dear. Even though the fear and the pain is real and while you may feel like your life is over you still have friends and family who cares about you. In fact, this might be the time for you to strengthen the bond between them because many times when you get in to a romantic relationship we tend to loose touch with other people that bring meaning to our lives. So take this time to reconnect with those that will be there for you during your ups and your lows.
Sharing your loss with them this may have them open up to you and share, with you if they have similar experience. This will help you to deal with your current situation and you will realized that your situation isn’t unique. Many females have been dumped by their boyfriends and have recovered tremendously and gone on to live a full and complete life after being dumped.
In addition to having more time for those who actually care about you, you will have more time to work other issues in your life. This is the time for you to get re-involved in the things that matter to you most because many times when we are in relationships we tend to get distracted our activities get pushed aside if our boyfriends aren’t interested.
There are all sort of activities you can invest in. Join a local YWC, local class or some workshop. Dancing will introduce you to people who enjoy finer things in life. A writer’s workshop or a public speaking club will be filled with creative types.
As you begin to re-engage with the world, you will lose the sense of desperation you felt when he dumped you. You will be surprise how many new friends you will meet that share the same interest and who knows you may meet that special one to bond with. Life is filled with hard aches and pain, but you must remember this it also has magnificent surprises.
Let the truth be told, you will definitely meet someone and start dating again. In fact this might sound a bit cliche or ridiculous, but your ex may have done you a huge favour by breaking up with you because now you have a chance to find someone who fits you better and discover who you really are.
And, always remember the best revenge when “he dumped you” is to move on!